My friend, Rory (after whom #1 is named - we shall heretofore call them R1 and R1, for clarity), send me an extremely thought-provoking link to an article about why people (women, in particular) love to bash other moms for their "bad behavior." The article discusses mothers who do really hideous things to their children, but the main gist of the story is to bring to light mothers in general - and how they judge themselves for not being super-human.
Here is a link to the article.
After you've read it, read my comments back to R1:
"VERY interesting. I don't get on myself too much, but sometimes I am short-tempered with R2 (not yet with Fiona, though once she begins, you know, having her own thoughts and opinions, I am sure that will change). I don't hurt R2 physically, or degrade her, but I try to focus on not finding certain behaviors annoying. Like when she runs away when I am trying to get her coat on (for the 1000th time), kicks me while on the changing table (for the 1000th time), etc.
Recently, I realized/remembered that ALL this stuff - even the annoying things - will be gone far too soon. And then I will miss them. A lot.
So that's my new goal - to remember that point, and to enjoy everything. Or maybe to make a game out of the annoying stuff, so the "steam" leaves the situation and we all lighten up (meaning - ME lightening up).
They are great girls, and very well-behaved and fun. What more can I ask for? Not much! =>"
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